A friend was sharing some problems that she was having with her boyfriend. As she was telling me her story, I could feel her pain.
Her boyfriend was saying how he regretted going to Orlando with her because he really needed the money to buy a new car. My friend retorted that maybe they shouldn’t have gone to Six Flags either because that was expensive as well. He even got mad at her for telling him that he needed to replace his old car. (His old car runs but with smoke coming out of the hood…)
It was upsetting to her because she felt she was unable to communicate her thoughts or feelings with him. He refuses to listen when it comes down to money. She explained that he is a textbook example of a workaholic. He volunteers to take on extra shifts on weekends because he wants to save enough money to buy a house. He works so much that he doesn’t have a life anymore.
My friend stated that he is driven, works hard, and plans for the future. However, he pays no attention to the present. He sees everything in black and white, thinking that he is always right. He told my friend that she was wrong and even selfish for telling him to stop working so much or that he may need help. She admitted that she would still have been happy with him if he didn’t have a lot of money…
My friend has thought about leaving him, but she said it was not that easy. They were together since they were in college, and she still loves him very much. She had thought about breaking up with him recently when he almost took a shift on a Saturday night, and she already RSVPed that they would attend a friend’s 25th birthday dinner. She is tired of arguing with him over this, but she will try to reach him by writing a letter.
She never imagined that she would consider leave him because he valued money above all else, not because he was unfaithful. Sometimes, she feels that she is not good enough for him, but her boyfriend told her that she should get a better job, so that would make him look better.
Is it possible to love money so much? Have you ever known anyone who values money above all else? Even chose money over love?
Update:
Thanks for all your comments.
My friend told him off, and he finally listened to how she was feeling. They're currently doing fine.
